"Dear John, I will always wonder where John is and how he is doing, but I know I lost the right to know a long time ago"
The last lines of the movie sums up everything. The story of a boy and girl meeting accidentally, falling for each other and then deciding to see each other soon. All goes well for about a year when the boy is stuck in war zone away from her and his father. A father whom he loves a lot. The story goes on with the girl finally deciding to move ahead with some other guy, since John is not around and she cannot handle it any more. Although, she still loves him. Well!!! the movie goes on and the boy decides to move on as well. Shot in a battle in a distant place the boy discovers his love for his father. He goes back to mission after mission running away from what has happened. The fire inside burns him down. A lot of questions unanswered. The movie ends up in a good note quite opposite to the actual novel. In the movie the boy comes back only to find the girl married to a person who is suffering from cancer and needs an expensive medicine to be cured. The boy sells his fathers beloved collection and donates the money to the girl. Her husband lives a little longer. The girl and the boy meet again after years and embrace each other.
All said and done we are struck with the amazing feeling of something not right. Something bigger that existed between the girl and the boy but nothing could be done. Was it her fault that she could not handle it or was it his fault that he decided to go ahead with what he thought was the right thing to do. Or is it just human nature to want so deeply that the mere presence eludes the feelings that exits. With the presence gone there is no existence of that feeling. This prompts you to ask the next question "Was it love after all?". Love has been defined in so many ways by so many people that no body has a clue what love is. Yet we always find ourselves in the same situation wondering "What we feel today, will it be the same if the other is not there?" OR is it just a requirement that the two be together for love to be. I don't know.
The whole thing seems to be fed to us in the form of novels, movies, talking and others. As if we are in need of love in order to balance some equation. No No don't get me wrong here but I do believe in love. The only true love that i have seen in my life is the love of parents which is un-conditional. Even if you separate them from their child it is still there. Rest all kind of love falls like a deck of cards. We are constantly being fed about love, how it is, what it is, when it is. Yet I fail to see it. Maybe i don't have the eyes but I do have the heart that tells me constantly to love and to be loved. But yet i can' t feel anywhere the love they teach you.
So, either our teachings are wrong or we are searching in the wrong place. Nobody knows.
I just hope that its true since it is beautiful concept and there can be no better way.
I surely hope that I find a way out in this life.
